It would bother me - alot - too. Then I found out more that a girl from hooters took his phone in added herself to his fb? An oversimplified scenario goes like this: Your spouse strikes up an opposite-sex friendship with a person at work, spin or yoga class, the gym, or through your child's school or extra-curricular activities. They get more confident and thus more sloppy the older they get and the more times they get away with it. He told me he had to get the pizza so they would all settle down. She also said the emotions take your mind and body over and you lose all sense of what's right and wrong. Before telling her no he couldn't live with her he said tempted, but no etc etc.
He has taken our kids to meet her numerous times because she is having their sister. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year she also added a heart next to her name along with finishing off the card at the end miss and love you! I respect myself too much to be a constant snag in his life. Stay away from these parisitic women. I told him it was inappropriate. Just as the bad marriage doesn't excuse affairs.
Hopefully teh other man backs off as in respect to you. When you face death and destruction every day on the job, it tends to affect you physically, emotionally, spiritually. The constant reminder of seeing him everyday will I believe slowly open things back up but I could be wrong. Thank you for this post, I totally agree. I agree that neither husband nor wife needs to actively seek out a plethora of opposite-sex friends at work or any other settings. My sister also mentioned that I need to give myself time but if I still have a niggle after a few months with him that should be my answer as to whether we continue or not.
Then one day our refrigerator went out and needed a new one, he said he had no money to replace it. In my books, abusive is about violence, trying to control someone or put them down repeatedly by trying to make them feel small. I sent him a message to back off. More alarmingly though, text messaging provides an opportunity for even hearts most devoted to their marriages, to inadvertently seek pleasure from someone other than their spouse. And since they are still at same company they obviously can communicate on company e mail and you will have no clue. Every time I try to talk to my husband about it, at the end I am the horrible wife who does not respect his privacy.
There's no real need for this, although your spouse tells you that they need to stay in touch because of work or to coordinate fitness class, the kids activities, etc. He said, our sex life was no longer passionate on my side as he can feel It was a duty on my part. If you trust your husband to do the right thing, then there's nothing to worry about. I don't think I'd even be making time for a friend's text conversation if I were honestly regaling my boyfriend about my horniness, but that's just me. My husband and I have that rule and since he got a job where all his co-workers are all women, I have become distrustful that he has fully honored that rule all the time. Had this not happened who knows how far I would have taken this affair.
I felt threatened, something that was exclusively mine was being shared. He cried a lot last year that I thought he had learnt his lesson. All of which is acceptable and reasonable. My husband is a good guy, but he's a guy and a hornball! This female firefighter and your husband may very well have a special connection - who knows how many times they've saved each other's life. It was the shear curiosity that kept this going.
Say nothing, do nothing and get your radar up. He even said not long ago that he kind of saw what I meant when he looked back at their texts, that they were somewhat flirtatious. The female friend should make friends with the wife as well. Some married men step out of line as well. Even when they were married we still were friends.
But I think she is unhappy is her own relationship and is using my man as an emotional boost for her ego. He constantly text her updates on events in our lives. By the time the couple separated and sought counseling, the emotional affair had progressed to the point where the husband could see himself having children with the manager -- and the wife no longer felt comfortable walking into her own business. I don't expect any new ones to come around, mostly because hubby doesn't play that. Tell him to shape up or ship out — no argument. Anither public display if disrespect I was about to go Sophia on her. About the carrots and why he is still having this affair, but how do I know if its working or if I should keep trying to save my marriage.
Hey, we sure did a great job putting out that fire did you see that gorgeous hook and ladder go by. If her intensions are bad but then she gets to know you as a real person, then maybe she'll let go the fantasy, if she is indeed after your man. This is the approach that works for us. You are not over-reacting by insisting that a spouse end a texting relationship that you feel in your heart is undermining your marriage, and you are not over-reacting by treating it as a form of infidelity. When my spouse left me,I was praying for marriage restoration.
She said she had no idea I had a problem with her and should talk to my man about it because if her Fiance had a problem with her hanging out with my man she would do something about it. If ypure gut is telling you something is not right, its probably true, and in that case, something must be askew in your marriage. We talked extensively and I feel very calm about this at the moment. I can't imagine his girlfriend liking the fact that my wife is texting him so much. They continued flirting, I managed to see some of the messages before she deleted them.