Hyde, and you can move on and build a safer, more positive life in your house. I did divorce him, although a horrendous process being called every disgusting name under the sun! I hear how much you want her back. And seen the other side of it. We went to marriage councelor he discontinued after first 3 times — found an excuses one after another and blamed therapyst- usually he blames me for everything- I continued to go alone he would get very angry and things got realy ugly. Question: My husband ask me for a divorce the other day. It was very hard to do. I filed for divorce several months ago from my husband of almost 16 years.
He doesn't know I'm pregnant. It has got me so beat down that I would rather just move on to whatever the next life has to bring me. Nevertheless, it is incumbent among the new spouse when she is ready to protect herself and her children to seek the advice of an experienced family law attorney in domestic violence matters. Though if I could do it again, there is one thing I would change. I can't go out with my friends, can't attend church or functions that I used to participate because he'd think I'm seeing men. I want him to have only supervised visitation.
You either need to leave or stand up to him; otherwise, he will keep getting away with it. I cannot possibly feel more alone. It has been every day since last year. This journey has been about my marriage but it more importantly it has been about me. He starts out kind, humble, funny, shy and I love him.
We have been able to keep life at home very normal. An alcoholic person will not be interested in participating in everyday household tasks and responsibilities. This is definitely one of those situations where a lawyer and a therapist might offer different advice. I have severed contact with him other than emailing. Even with my new found strength, I got home from my trip and waffled again with my husband.
I ask for a mutual understanding, but fear that will never occur. My ex is very abusive and just recently shot a man in the army. It brought back traumatic memories of him startling me with his snoring and not caring. He says if I don't settle out of court with him he'll drag the divorce out. However, it was also a place of feeling alone and missing my family. First off, did you tell her what you just told me? How do I get my personal belongings out of the house? It took over a year, maybe 2 years for things to turn around. Obviously she can petition for the divorce without my knowledge or approval so there should be a way for her to dissolve the marriage without me agreeing to it.
You are responsible for protecting yourself and any children involved from harm. Your divorce lawyer cannot make you do anything. On top of that living with an abusive alcoholic spouse can threaten both your physical safety as well as your emotional well-being. For example, we had to go to court for a pre-trial hearing and he didn't even show up. My two kids are teenagers. Our system does not work where one party just makes demands and the courts carry them out.
Things continued to get worse at home now that my husband could put all the blame on me as to why he was always so angry. Fear is not the same as concern. When unhealthy emotions take hold and make you lash out… What is good for the goose is good for the gander. I find it impossible to look at this man and I feel ashamed of the fact I married such a cruel horrible person. His father also is a drug and alcohol abuser.
We have both made serious mistakes during the course of the last 13 years. Reading all of the stories in this blog inspired me to let go. Nothing is documented and she never had the will or opportunity to contact the police and have the abusive husband arrested. This can also help your case if you take any children with you. I feel horrible blocking him on that too, but it is getting to be an emotionally draining process for me. If he understood the full extent of his actions, he would not continue to push his needs onto you.