Instead of hating her, hug her, she needs some love too. To be a sorority mom, you will need to manage the house, deal with any staff, provide support for the girls, and help manage the meals. I started to notice the sorority girls in my class simply from their cute and effortless style. It's going to be a special night because their crushes will also attend this party and the girls are super excited. There are exceptions to this of course. The first few weeks are the absolute best time to establish your social circle because the new freshmen are dying to meet new people. Girls wear tighter more revealing clothing.
The women involved with sororities work within traditions based on Greek fraternal principles of comradeship and performing community service, both on and off the campus. You have unlimited mixers, classes, parties, and 100s of other ways to meet women. There were plenty of times she'd go to a party at a fraternity that I couldn't go to because I wasn't in one, so if that would bother you that's something to look out for. Why do you do it? For one, the fraternity system was created to essentially make it easier for men to have as much sex as possible. Till next time, Hello there my lovelies! But, in general, you should try your hardest to keep a clear head — this is a big decision and you should pick for yourself! Sororities are not anti-feminist because 1 they are based on principles of leadership and support, and 2 they are where so many uber-feminist superstars started Condoleeza Rice, Katie Couric, Julia Louis-Dreyfus, to name a few. But, it's really just a personal decision. Some of my best friends are girls from other sororities! A standards meeting is usually a panel board of five members from the sorority who will ask you why you are leaving.
He has written in literary journals such as Read Herrings and provides written online guides for towns ranging from Seymour, Connecticut to Haines, Alaska. One of the great things about Greek life is that it spans across chapters. Sisterhood is forever…whether you like it or not. Know who will cause you the most problems. I like meeting new people. Have a passion for young adults. You'll also need to know about the plans you need to set in motion in case of an emergency.
What is most important is how you feel about the girls you met at that house, and whether they are people you would be proud to call sisters. The obvious reason is to get into a sorority of course, so the better question might be why do you want to be in a house. For most, it's about finding a strong social network far away from home, for others it's about philanthropy, and for some, honestly, it's about the parties. For example, say you have a class with an older girl and become friendly with her, maybe you occasionally get coffee together before class, or even study together, this is all fine. Be sure to wear your favorite sorority shirt and have your hair and makeup done to ensure that you look your best for the fraternity boys.
A hat is perfect, it makes getting ready easy and you still look cute with a monogram on it or even your school or sorority. Where did you feel accepted, understood, and appreciated? I literally wear these every day for class! Not only will your date be happy that he did not end up with vomit on his lap, you may also be sober enough to walk, which means that you have the option of dancing once you get there. She was the only sorority girl that I dated. The fact is that the girls are shopping for a socially desirable future mate with a probable good future income. Why the big production of rush? It was just a guess.
There's no dibs because we'd run out of people. If there is any chance that you may require feminine hygiene products at any point during Recruitment Week, plan ahead for that possibility, whether that means wearing or carrying them, just in case. And i was dating casually. There is not one sorority whose chapters' initiation processes are identical, so everyone has to speak for herself. That place should be at the top of your pref list. If you get jealous easily or are insecure, she will choose her sorority over you as she should. Talk to your parents about whether this is the right decision for you.
For example, no scrunchies, dangly earrings, chokers, or eye color-changing contacts are allowed, hair should never be in a ponytail or bun, tattoos must be covered, and piercings removed, to name a few. Joining a sorority is a big step, girls! Knowing some basic counseling skills can help you help them. When we put on social events for the purpose of raising money for charity, that money goes completely to charity. You won't meet a sorority girl who regrets the relationships she made during hers. The system has a magical way of working itself out, almost everybody ends up where they should be.
After spending so much time wondering who those people are going to be, initiation really does feel like some kind of sisterhood. Remember, the girls rushing you are just as nervous as you are, and the easier you make it to talk to you, the better! At this point most girls have a pretty good idea of their top two sororities, but you might not. Depending on what school you go to, sorority houses may be several blocks apart. Greek life, at least in my college experience was all about fitting into a common culture that everyone in that culture agreed on, and you as a non-greek person don't fit in. I trusted my gf, so that was never an issue. The need to be social is one of the main reasons many girls join a sorority, because they see it as a chance for automatic friends.