If she already seems like she prioritized their opinion on you over your actual relationship, it is not going to get better. If none of these work, maybe consider taking your grandparents to a show here at. Disengage in conversations that cause you discomfort. Not get long term with, marry, or procreate with someone who has a family like that. They seem to lack a lot of it. While it can be hard to be understanding in regards to racist beliefs, try to get inside your parents' heads. Now theirs some logic for ya.
Does she have a strong support system other, non-racist family and friends? Are you empirically right that all racism is wrong? Any response, even negative, gives them exactly what they want. I greatly appreciate knowing that others see this situation in a similiar light as I do. If they say or do something racist in your presence, try to address it immediately. Keep your trolling ass mouth shut pig. Ask them to clarify what they meant. Keep in mind it is very rare that people change their viewpoints, especially if they're set in age.
Racism is never surprising but it always hurts. This is about your comfort level with rural people who are unlike you, and, in your mind, not as evolved. Use your own family to show her what real love and supprt is like. . Wouldn't that make her a sympathizer of racism? My in-laws use terrible words to describe other races in front of our children.
You are more than likely in a small town close to Erie. Research shows the overwhelming majority of bystanders witnessing a racist incident will remain silent and do nothing , mainly out of fear. Mention the fact that it is obvious to your other child too. I think the whole issue boils down to egos. Homophobia plays out a little differently, but is no less problematic. Oftentimes, the best way to deal with racist parents is to model good behavior for them.
It's a complicated situation with lots of emotions. All you can do is grant an audience with them on this. These can be very useful moments to question someone's fear and ignorance. Race should never be an issue, it's the heart and the soul of a person one should see. I have heard many experts say you should not argue with racists, you should simply state that you do not accept their language and they should respect that and not discuss such things around you.
I think your choice is one that you really have no choice about. If you have any concerns about your own health or the health of your child, you should always consult with a physician or other healthcare professional. I will never lay credence to the notion that they know more and thus can better judge the actions of others due to their enlightened reading of history, than people who spent multiple decades struggling to survive in it. Of course when it comes to the house it's their rules, so you'll just have to deal with it until and if you move out. Also, try to recruit other family members who are more sympathetic to your beliefs, and have a conversation with them to see how they may be able to lend their support. For example, assuming that an Asian person is good at maths would be a prejudiced assumption.
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We also have a rule for our three kids, ages 14, 10, and 7: You will respect your elders. If they keep going back to their subject keep going back to yours. Most importantly, be an ally. Tell them that their message or action was racist. Anger is a weapon only to one's opponent. However, addressing certain behaviors is still important. It might be serious, but it is still very new.